When You Care Enough to Click

The questions and comments have certainly come in responding to my July newsletter article, "How to Click Less--to Connect More."  They range from "thank goodness someone's saying this!" to "are you living in a fantasy world?"

If you didn't read the piece, I make the case that if we want to connect more with our families, friends, and even colleagues and clients, we need to click less. Less clicking on our BlackBerries, IPhones, and Facebook accounts. Less time tapping out our texts and tweets.

And of course, the apparent irony is that I offer these thoughts by clicking away right now. And of course, I know that to get you here, you'll have to care enough to click.

Maybe that's the nuance I didn't discuss, the tip that I didn't outline in my list here on my website. That nuance is that to click less, you have to care less. You have to care less about. . .

• Responding to everyone elses' priorities and ignoring your own
• Maintaining appearances of accomplishment instead of actually accomplishing things
• Missing an opportunity to get your two cents in
• Knowing everything, all the time
• Keeping everyone else happy at your own expense
• Being seen as unique, out of the ordinary, and not afraid to stand out from the pack.

When you start caring less about the things that don't matter to you, you create space to care more about the things--and especially people--that do. You then have time to connect more--and click less.